It’s strange, isn’t it? How our heart sometimes aches for people who brought us more pain than peace. How we remember moments with someone who never truly valued us. Missing someone who wasn’t good for us doesn’t mean we are weak—it simply means we are human, layered with emotions, memories, and unspoken stories.
We often miss people because of what we felt, not because of how we were treated. Our heart remembers the laughter, the late-night talks, and the soft warmth of being understood, even if it was temporary. Our mind, however, remembers the truth—the red flags, the disappointment, the nights we cried quietly. Between the heart and mind, a silent battle begins, and in that conflict, nostalgia often becomes louder than reality.
Sometimes, we miss the idea of them, not the person they truly were. We miss the comfort we imagined, the future we pictured, the love we hoped they would give but never did. Our longing is often tied to the potential, not the person.
There’s also a part of us that misses the version of ourselves we were with them. Even if the relationship was unhealthy, we attached certain memories to certain moments of our lives. Missing them becomes a way of missing a chapter of who we used to be.
Healing begins when we understand this truth:
Missing someone doesn’t mean they deserve a place in your life. It means you’re still learning to let go.
We don’t heal by pretending we never cared. We heal by accepting that even the wrong people can leave deep marks, and that doesn’t make us foolish—it makes us warm-hearted. It means we loved deeply, even if the other person didn’t know how to hold that love.
With time, the heart learns new ways to feel safe. The mind becomes clearer. And one day, you’ll look back and realize that missing someone was just a part of the healing, not a sign to return to what hurt you. You grow. You move forward. You find peace that doesn’t confuse your heart.
Missing them is a feeling. But choosing yourself is a decision—and that is where freedom begins.
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